Emotions! Emotions!

How can I move forward? Can I really forget everything? These bombarding question are asked by a lot of people nowadays. Those people who have been experiencing serious heartbreaks. In our modern world today, everything is technical. Even breaking up with someone, today becomes digital. A lot of breakups happen during phone calls, sometimes while chatting. Now, to make the question simpler, how can someone mend a broken heart? On the other hand, repressed emotions (especially fearful or negative ones) can zap mental energy and hope and lead to health problems, such as high blood pressure or digestive disorders.

If you are heartbroken you will experienced. Chronic stress from negative attitudes and feelings of helplessness and hopelessness can upset the body's hormone balance and deplete the brain chemicals required for feelings of happiness, as well as have a damaging impact on the immune system. New scientific understandings have also identified the process by which chronic stress can actually decrease our lifespan by shortening our telomeres (the “end caps” of our DNA strands, which play a big role in aging).Poorly managed or repressed anger (hostility) is also related to a slew of health conditions, such as hypertension, cardiovascular disease, digestive disorders, and infection. 

Moving on is a process, which means that it undergoes a series of steps to be able to accomplish a goal. This time, our goal is moving on to what had happened, of course in a healthy way wherein we would not let our health suffer. Here are some psychological points to help us move on without ruining our health. We just need to remember FAGPM which stands for forgiveness, acceptance, gratitude, positive outlook, and moving forward.

 

 First is the attitude of forgiveness which is fully accepting that a negative circumstance has occurred and relinquishing negative feelings surrounding the event; can be learned and can lead us to experience better mental, emotional and physical health. According to the Stanford Forgiveness Project, this trained 260 adults in forgiveness in a 6-week course. These are their findings:

• 70% reported a decrease in their feelings of hurt
• 13% experienced reduced anger
• 27% experienced fewer physical complaints (for example, pain, gastrointestinal upset, dizziness, etc.)

The practice of forgiveness has also been linked to better immune function and a longer lifespan. Other studies have shown that forgiveness has more than just a metaphorical effect on the heart: it can actually lower our blood pressure and improve cardiovascular health as well.

 


Next, is acceptance which is a choice—a hard one most definitely, but in the end, it’s a choice that only we can make at any given situation of our lives. It is the key to convert momentary happiness to enduring happiness. It helps you move from feeling happy to actually being happy.  I discovered that I was happier and more peaceful when I accepted what had happened, instead of constantly fighting to change things.

 

  Acknowledging the good aspects of life and giving thanks have a powerful impact on emotional wellbeing (gratitude) . In a landmark study, people who were asked to count their blessings felt happier, exercised more, had fewer physical complaints, and slept better than those who created lists of hassles. Brené Brown has found that there is a relationship between joy and gratitude, but with a surprising twist: it’s not joy that makes us grateful, but gratitude that makes us joyful. 

 

We all want a happy life, and we all know that having a positive attitude feels better than a negative one. But for some reason, we are all attracted to and can be easily drawn to the negative side. A positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worries and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it will bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful. With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic, and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing.
 


 Seek happiness within yourself. Explore things about yourself that you truly enjoy. Feel confident in just being alone for a little while. Do something special to make you feel good, such as getting some exercise or catching up on old projects you’ve been delaying. In tris way we would be able to easily move forward about everything that happened.

 



 
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